Two girls are stuck in my mind.
M who takes an action whenever she wants.
Y who doesn’t have her opinion and follow her way.
They have known each other for 10 years.
I’m very impressed they play their roles and keep good relation ship…
Y is stuck in my mind.
When M says to want to do something, Y always agree with her.
I want to say to Y.
“Do you really want to do that? What is your opinion?
What do you want to do indeed? “
She came cross to me as playing “good person”.
Y is me…
I expected to be judged by everyone “I am good person” and didn’t want to be refused.
I have done whatever everyone wants and never said “no”.
But I felt lonely and didn’t get my satisfaction.
They supposed to think of me
“They didn’t understand what I thought, what I desired, etc.”
That’s why they went to share their problems to others, not me…
If I don’t reveal my real intension, they off course don’t do it, neither.
That means I just get the surface friends.
I have done meaningless.
I quit to play “good people” and reveal my real intension !!
2009年7月26日日曜日
2009年7月25日土曜日
Inner Child
Most of people hear the word "Inner child" no matter if we are interested in psychology or not.
What is "inner child”?
It is our original patterns of thoughts.
When did we make these?
Generally speaking, we had made these until we were 6 years old,
like how to deal with the human relationships and how to feel
when each situation is happened. (like basic OS of computer.)
What is the base for making these patterns ?
It is to make from thoughts against our own families in childhood.
When we are child, all of the world is family, especially, parents.
As we grow up, our world is shifted from family to school, company, society...
Then we grade up our inner child thorough many experiences and handle
in society with others well.
But, if you have problems now, you have the inner child that stays
with no version up in your mind.
That means your mind remains in your child thought , not growing enough.
This is the inner child that we are called in psycho therapy.
We advise you how to grow up your child thoughts !!
What is "inner child”?
It is our original patterns of thoughts.
When did we make these?
Generally speaking, we had made these until we were 6 years old,
like how to deal with the human relationships and how to feel
when each situation is happened. (like basic OS of computer.)
What is the base for making these patterns ?
It is to make from thoughts against our own families in childhood.
When we are child, all of the world is family, especially, parents.
As we grow up, our world is shifted from family to school, company, society...
Then we grade up our inner child thorough many experiences and handle
in society with others well.
But, if you have problems now, you have the inner child that stays
with no version up in your mind.
That means your mind remains in your child thought , not growing enough.
This is the inner child that we are called in psycho therapy.
We advise you how to grow up your child thoughts !!
2009年7月19日日曜日
Dreams come true
My friend asked me why he is not become a rich man
although he have always thought to want to be…
There are 2 possible answers.
One is that his thought is not enough to become reality.
Another is he doesn’t want to get it indeed…
Why do you want to get a lot of money?
To be the better life
Buying house, taking care of parents, going travel etc.
What are you practically doing for it ?
Saving the money.
Looking for the jobs with better salary.
Buying lotto.
How much money do you save money per month ?
I don't know...
How do you look for the job ?
Checking the internet job site.
Why are buying lottos ?
I can't earn milion dollors except winning lotto.
???
Apparently, he seems not to think about getting money siriously...
If he really wants it, he have to make up his mind strongly and take an action.
(Our thought creat the current phenomenon, but need to take an action together!!)
Another thinng is here.
He thinks he can't earn a lot of money by hisself.
That means, even if he says to want money, it doesn't come true.
(Becase his deeper thought stops his way to get a lot of money.)
So, need to release this thought from his mind.
Then, imagin the future...
What is your goal ?How much do you want to get money ?
Milions !!
How do you think get that money ?
Doing the business.
OK!!
You've already known how to get it and be a milionaire,
but you havn't done anything...
Besauce of fear ? Rude ?
We are normally afraid of new steps with many negative "if"
However, it is not meaningless...
(because negative thoughts lead to negative phenomenon
even though you haven't done anything. )
Draw the brighten future and make up your mid and step forward
to make dreams come true !!!
although he have always thought to want to be…
There are 2 possible answers.
One is that his thought is not enough to become reality.
Another is he doesn’t want to get it indeed…
Why do you want to get a lot of money?
To be the better life
Buying house, taking care of parents, going travel etc.
What are you practically doing for it ?
Saving the money.
Looking for the jobs with better salary.
Buying lotto.
How much money do you save money per month ?
I don't know...
How do you look for the job ?
Checking the internet job site.
Why are buying lottos ?
I can't earn milion dollors except winning lotto.
???
Apparently, he seems not to think about getting money siriously...
If he really wants it, he have to make up his mind strongly and take an action.
(Our thought creat the current phenomenon, but need to take an action together!!)
Another thinng is here.
He thinks he can't earn a lot of money by hisself.
That means, even if he says to want money, it doesn't come true.
(Becase his deeper thought stops his way to get a lot of money.)
So, need to release this thought from his mind.
Then, imagin the future...
What is your goal ?How much do you want to get money ?
Milions !!
How do you think get that money ?
Doing the business.
OK!!
You've already known how to get it and be a milionaire,
but you havn't done anything...
Besauce of fear ? Rude ?
We are normally afraid of new steps with many negative "if"
However, it is not meaningless...
(because negative thoughts lead to negative phenomenon
even though you haven't done anything. )
Draw the brighten future and make up your mid and step forward
to make dreams come true !!!
2009年7月14日火曜日
Wonderful word
I came across the wonderful sentence in the book.
"To be free. It is not to escape from something, but to be the boss of you "
What is freedom ?
When we are busy of your work or study,
many people think to go travelling to somewhere...
want to be released the situation.
But is to escape from it meant we get freedom ?
If we escape from something, we are not satisfied with this situation.
All things are made by you.
No need to escape from anything !!
If you are busy, it has some meanings
because result is your purpose.
To be free is to control your life by yourself.
"To be free. It is not to escape from something, but to be the boss of you "
What is freedom ?
When we are busy of your work or study,
many people think to go travelling to somewhere...
want to be released the situation.
But is to escape from it meant we get freedom ?
If we escape from something, we are not satisfied with this situation.
All things are made by you.
No need to escape from anything !!
If you are busy, it has some meanings
because result is your purpose.
To be free is to control your life by yourself.
2009年7月11日土曜日
Cleaning up
Recently, I feel like to do cleaning before I start to work.
I do nothing special, though...
Just open the office, wipe the tables, clean up the rubbish bin etc...
and my mind is gonna be working mode.
Then, I plan what I'm going to do during the day and can do it very efficiently.
Indeed, it is good not only to make room clean physically but to put your ideas in order.
If you can't start doing anything because you think about it too much,
Try it !!
It makes your mind very clean and clear and you can make it easily
I do nothing special, though...
Just open the office, wipe the tables, clean up the rubbish bin etc...
and my mind is gonna be working mode.
Then, I plan what I'm going to do during the day and can do it very efficiently.
Indeed, it is good not only to make room clean physically but to put your ideas in order.
If you can't start doing anything because you think about it too much,
Try it !!
It makes your mind very clean and clear and you can make it easily
2009年7月9日木曜日
Dexterous !?
Everyone often says to me
"Surprised that you can do everything !!"
I like to hear this kind of words.
I tend to learn something widely, not deeply.
One day, I think about it.
"Why do I keep doing something new when I feel some satisfied
after learing ?"
Am I capricious ?
Do I feel luck of satisfaction because of not new ?"
These reasons are correct, to some extend.
But rout of cauasality is
"Myself who don't want to take my responsibility."
I'm fear for the world after I have completed.
I have completed and to be a top and then, have to burden the responsiblity...
I fall down my possibility by myself...
This is really ridicurous, isnt it !?
So, I graduate from this stupid thought !
I make up my mind to take my resposibility for everything !
And I say to myself
"Don't be afraid, You have enogh ability to do it by yourself with resposibility !
New world you can create your life will be there."
"Surprised that you can do everything !!"
I like to hear this kind of words.
I tend to learn something widely, not deeply.
One day, I think about it.
"Why do I keep doing something new when I feel some satisfied
after learing ?"
Am I capricious ?
Do I feel luck of satisfaction because of not new ?"
These reasons are correct, to some extend.
But rout of cauasality is
"Myself who don't want to take my responsibility."
I'm fear for the world after I have completed.
I have completed and to be a top and then, have to burden the responsiblity...
I fall down my possibility by myself...
This is really ridicurous, isnt it !?
So, I graduate from this stupid thought !
I make up my mind to take my resposibility for everything !
And I say to myself
"Don't be afraid, You have enogh ability to do it by yourself with resposibility !
New world you can create your life will be there."
2009年7月7日火曜日
Positive mind
Do you have some beliefs?
For me...
When I have some events like going for travelling, driving,
the weather is always very good. I'm a sunny girl !!
My thought create phenomenon like below.
I think the weather should be nice for my important days.
↓
Phenomenon is happened becasuse of proof.
↓
I beleive the weather is always good !!
Sometimes, weather supposed not to be good,
but I don't remember andjust input the good thing in my brain...
it's gonna be firm belief...
Someone say "weather is always bad for me."
If you always think the negative way like this,
many negative phenomenos are happened.
Don't you think positive minds bring you many pleasant feelings ?
Thinking is free. Nobody disturb your thought.
Let's think many positive things !!
For me...
When I have some events like going for travelling, driving,
the weather is always very good. I'm a sunny girl !!
My thought create phenomenon like below.
I think the weather should be nice for my important days.
↓
Phenomenon is happened becasuse of proof.
↓
I beleive the weather is always good !!
Sometimes, weather supposed not to be good,
but I don't remember andjust input the good thing in my brain...
it's gonna be firm belief...
Someone say "weather is always bad for me."
If you always think the negative way like this,
many negative phenomenos are happened.
Don't you think positive minds bring you many pleasant feelings ?
Thinking is free. Nobody disturb your thought.
Let's think many positive things !!
2009年7月4日土曜日
Every message is for me
From conversation with my client.
She've worked as veterinarian in Japan.
She is studying hard to work at vet in New Zealand.
I was talking to her.
"You've studied enogh to do so and it's time to start work.
You can learn what you don't know at the real situation.
Don't you escape from here with reason you can't do it
because you don't finish studying ?
When you think about applying the job, you feel anxious,
like they don't accept you...
But can you step forward ?
If you want to study more, you should decide the starting date."
What I want to say something to somebody is what I want to say it to myself.
Ummm, it's really mine,,,
I'm about to start the work as Phycological therapist, but I have a lot of worries.
While I do study, it seems to be proceeding, but I do it for reason I don't start.
(Studying itself is off course importatnt, but don't use for reason.)
Well, All I have to do is "Do it !! Move it !! "
If I do it, she does it as well...
She've worked as veterinarian in Japan.
She is studying hard to work at vet in New Zealand.
I was talking to her.
"You've studied enogh to do so and it's time to start work.
You can learn what you don't know at the real situation.
Don't you escape from here with reason you can't do it
because you don't finish studying ?
When you think about applying the job, you feel anxious,
like they don't accept you...
But can you step forward ?
If you want to study more, you should decide the starting date."
What I want to say something to somebody is what I want to say it to myself.
Ummm, it's really mine,,,
I'm about to start the work as Phycological therapist, but I have a lot of worries.
While I do study, it seems to be proceeding, but I do it for reason I don't start.
(Studying itself is off course importatnt, but don't use for reason.)
Well, All I have to do is "Do it !! Move it !! "
If I do it, she does it as well...
2009年7月1日水曜日
Your choice is always best
When we come across some horrible situations, we may think
"It's not my fault. My surrundings like freinds, parents,
collegues, your boss, your company etc give it to me...
But you create everything. You make all situations even if you feel them disaster.
Current phenomenons come from your thought in past.
For example...
A lady say "I want to get married " But she doesn't and she gets sick instead.
She thinks not to get anything she wants and get worst situation...
However, she gets what she really wants !!
If she doesn't get married, her thought haven't reached to enogh level or
it doesn't her desire. She works hard and thinks to take one week off etc.
This thought leads to married. But her real desire is to take some rests.
That's why she get sick.
Result is always your purpose. You get your best choice all the times.
You need to admit once without any excusion.
Let's consider what is your real purpose at the first moment...
TAW (Theory of an Advanced World)
http://www.taw.ac/ (Japanese version, English version is coming soon.)
erika613@gmail.com
"It's not my fault. My surrundings like freinds, parents,
collegues, your boss, your company etc give it to me...
But you create everything. You make all situations even if you feel them disaster.
Current phenomenons come from your thought in past.
For example...
A lady say "I want to get married " But she doesn't and she gets sick instead.
She thinks not to get anything she wants and get worst situation...
However, she gets what she really wants !!
If she doesn't get married, her thought haven't reached to enogh level or
it doesn't her desire. She works hard and thinks to take one week off etc.
This thought leads to married. But her real desire is to take some rests.
That's why she get sick.
Result is always your purpose. You get your best choice all the times.
You need to admit once without any excusion.
Let's consider what is your real purpose at the first moment...
TAW (Theory of an Advanced World)
http://www.taw.ac/ (Japanese version, English version is coming soon.)
erika613@gmail.com
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