Merry Christmas !

Merry christmas to all of you !

I am back in Japan for 1 week.

I haven't come back in winter for 2 years ,

I totally forgot how cold it is in Japan...

I enjoyed the beautiful illuminations.

For me, christmas = winter, cold, white christmas, beautiful illuminations.

For New Zealand, Australia, some tropical countries,

xmas = summer, hot, BBQ party at beach...

Everyone has the different common sense...

What is the common sense ?

Does it exist ?

If only 2

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We are loosing our minds in our busy dairy life and

forgetting what the important things are, what you desire to do.

There is a easy way to find them !

You imagine the last period of your life.

You might lay down the bed and your family look at your last moment.

You feel very happy and satisfied with your life.

Then think

if you can relive to the another life from 20s, 30s, what do you want to do ?

That is your true demand.

As we just forget about it,

just remember what you want to do and try it !

If only...

I watched the movie “If only” on TV last Saturday.

The content is

His girlfriend, Samantha died in an accident shortly after they had a fight.
He, Ian, thought “If only I had told her how much I loved her.
If only we could live together forever…”

He got a chance to relive the day all over again and he spent the day with her
as much as possible and told her how important she was for him.

I don’t like the ending, but they gave me the important message.

That is;

What is the most important thing/person for you ?

Carrier ?
Family ?
Lover ?

Do you pay enough attention for them ?

Don’t you think everybody understand you unless you don’t say anything
and don’t pay any attention ?

It’s too late to regret “if only…” after loosing your important things/persons.

You can avoid this situation !! How ?

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find out your similar patterns !

My friend asked me the interesting question during driving.

“Why do I like to change the line frequently ?
Do you analyze my physiological pattern ?”

He likes to change to another line if his line is getting crowd.
After that, he thinks another line is faster and changes the line again and again…
Although the traveling time is not much different, his stress is bigger and bigger.

From this point of view, I analyze

He likes to jump at the immediate profit.
Indecisive person
Adventurous person

All thinking patterns come to see the many life scenes as the similar patterns.

For him, I can see his attitude for his job.

You should look around the whole picture, not the part.
You had better to decide one thing, not try to do many things at the same time.
You can achieve the good result.

In this way, if we analyze our usual life, we can understand our thinking patterns.

If you are interested in, please free to contact me ! ( I help to analyze your pattern.)

Make your life with not passive but active!

Aren't you waiting for something given by someone and complaining about them ?

"A doesn't do it for me !!"
"It is not the thing I want !!"

Nobody knows when you can get them.
Even if you get them, you never be satisfied with your demanding.
That is endless...

Soooo....

How about to get them by yourself !?

It is stress free...
No one make you frustrated any more...

And you can get anything you want.

This way is better than other way (you complain all the times), isn't it ?

You might get more and bigger things.
You also feel plenty of satisfaction.

Make your life with not passive but active!
Don't wait ! Go ahead and grab it !

You could → You can

When you challenge a new thing, you sometimes can't take an action with fears and worries.

At that time, let’s remember your memories “You could” in your childhood.

When you could ride the bike at the first time

When you could swim 25m

When you could go shopping alone.

etc….

There are a lot of things you could do alone after you made efforts.

Remember them.

Then, image your little child (below 6 years old) and say to her/him.

“Well done! You could do it by yourself. You made it because you never
gave up even if you failed many times. Really good job!”

Yes, you know it.
You can do it (reach your goal) with your big effort.

Image your many “you could” and let your brain remember the memories back.
Then, your power “you can” is increasing.

Now, it’s your turn to challenge the new thing.
No worries, you can do it because you could do it in your childhood.

Where is the peak ?

I sometimes watch the TV program of Chef Gordon Ramsay
who is very famous chef in the world.

He does the cooking competition with the guest on this TV.

One time competition, win or lose…

He’s supposed to win the competition because of the famous chef, but he sometimes lost it.
And he felt deeply vexed.

I thought it was important to have an aspiration at any time even if he became famous.

If I think I reach the top of my profession, My growing is stopped at that stage.

However, does the peak really exist?

There is a path over the peak which I thought.

People can grow up with no limit.

It depends on ourselves.

Thinking “more and more” or “it’s enough”

Let’s create our own world by ourselves!

Recharge

Spring is coming in New Zealand !!

We can see the cherry blossoms around here now.

I raise the special feeling when I see the cherry blossoms because of Japanese...

As the weather is also getting suitable, like warm and lovely sunny day most of the times,
I often have breakfast and afternoon tea in the garden.

While I see the plum tree with the flesh green leaves and hear the birds’ twitter…

The nature energy makes my energy recharge !!

Nature growing = My growing

Weak point is strong point

We normally think the weak point is bad habit, but
the weak point is strong point.

Selfish 　　　　 ⇔　 Self- assertion
Stubborn 　　　　 ⇔ 　To have Strong will
Dishonest, Shifty 　⇔ 　Smart, Sharp brain
Jealous 　　　　 ⇔　 To notice people’s strong point
Show of oneself 　⇔　To have pride

If we keep doing with thinking it is good, this sometimes turns over to what
People think it is bad point.

If you are pointed out by someone like that, you may consider and balance it.

People's opinion is good barometer to keep balance for you!

Successful person

Ｉ have many chances to see the people who succeed for their businesses.

Their attitude toward business in common is

“They always do their best ways. “

“They never give up.”

“They always have ambitions.”

For me…

“Do not do my best by considering the result.

“Easy to give up.”

“Keeping the current situation.”

With the above my mind, I don’t get a big success.

Therefore, I make up my mind to change myself
in order to get the big dream !

Until now, I get everything without any efforts.
However, to get them easily means that I get a small achievement.

What I want is to get the big achievement, not small.
So, I never give up and build up my efforts so that my dream comes true!

People surrounding me are very attractive.
They are my future status. I’m going to catch up them!

Heart-warming

When I was on the bus yesterday, the driver suddenly asked

“Turning right here? Or left?”

As he is the new driver, he seems not to know the bus rout well…

Then, many customers told him

“Turing right”

“You are doing well !”

“Don’t worry !”

They gave him some words as well when they got off from the bus.

It made me heartwarming

We sometimes don’t get any clue by ourselves.
At that time, it’s good way to get some advices from people about you.

People around you are you.
If you reply on them, it means you rely on yourself.

But, don’t rely on too much !
It causes to lose you and uncontrol yourself.

Energy

Energy is limited.

It is totally 100%.

With view of time, one day has 24 hours and one year has 365 days…

People who are successful for business spend the most part of their energies. (almost 100%)

People who want to get both business success and pleasure don’t make it soon
because they are not focusing for one thing.
Even if they are going to do, they get some success.(business 60%, Pleasure40%)

How percentages do you divide each category in your life?

Are you satisfied with it or not ?

What kind of your life do you want?

To come to the reality, do you need to change the balance of energy?

To increase the amount of energy is to increase the amount of your thought and actions.

How much do you become serious with limited times.

It depends on you !!

Thoughts x Actiions = Dreams come true !

To say “Our thoughts come to reality”,

Someone misunderstand “Dreams come true with only thoughts.”

Unfortunately, there is no story like a dream…

We need to take actions altogether with thoughts.

How long it takes dreams come true depends on
How much one thinks and take actions.

When we think a lot, we want to take actions.

But, we sometimes are facing with the difficulties.

At that time, if you give up…

Your dream off course will not come true.

You should think a lot again and take actions!

Then you’re going to reach your goals.

Are you disappointed for the normal process?

But, you haven’t tried it yet, have you!?

Try it first !!

Am I right ?

Someone say

" Did I take a wrong decision ? what should I do ?"

" Everything should be correct because you choose what you want to do..."

Accoring to TAW, you create your world and choose the best choice
whenever you do.

You might want to say

It is decided by my parents, teachers, friends and I just follow their decisions...

You use them to decide what to do with some reasons...

Because not to take any resposible about this decision.
Because to feel comfortable to follow it.

Our thoughts has been made befor 6 years old child.
When we experienced some events, we larned how to treat them.
Then if we did it succesfuly, we thought it was good way and
creat our pattern of thinking.

That means, if we analyze how to creat our thought,
we understand how we choose the best way and
we create our world by ourselves !

Egg first? Chicken first?

Which came first? Chicken or Egg?

According to TAW, it says chicken first!!

That means we came first before parents.

????

We are born from our parents and they exist before we are in this world…

A bit confusing…

On the Physical point of view, that is true, but by considering to our mind,
Our mind came first!

Yes, we chose our own parents and sibling’s condition. (eldest or middle or youngest or one )

Eldest demands status, monoy (physical things)
middle demands freedome
Youngest demands protection, human loves

As it is the original demand, we can change our demand anytime.
(But can get it one by one, not all together...)

What did you want originally ?
What do you want now?

Two girls

Two girls are stuck in my mind.

M who takes an action whenever she wants.

Y who doesn’t have her opinion and follow her way.

They have known each other for 10 years.
I’m very impressed they play their roles and keep good relation ship…

Y is stuck in my mind.

When M says to want to do something, Y always agree with her.

I want to say to Y.

“Do you really want to do that? What is your opinion?
What do you want to do indeed? “

She came cross to me as playing “good person”.

Y is me…

I expected to be judged by everyone “I am good person” and didn’t want to be refused.

I have done whatever everyone wants and never said “no”.

But I felt lonely and didn’t get my satisfaction.

They supposed to think of me

“They didn’t understand what I thought, what I desired, etc.”

That’s why they went to share their problems to others, not me…

If I don’t reveal my real intension, they off course don’t do it, neither.
That means I just get the surface friends.

I have done meaningless.

I quit to play “good people” and reveal my real intension !!

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Inner Child

Most of people hear the word "Inner child" no matter if we are interested in psychology or not.

What is "inner child”?

It is our original patterns of thoughts.

When did we make these?

Generally speaking, we had made these until we were 6 years old,
like how to deal with the human relationships and how to feel
when each situation is happened. (like basic OS of computer.)

What is the base for making these patterns ?

It is to make from thoughts against our own families in childhood.

When we are child, all of the world is family, especially, parents.

As we grow up, our world is shifted from family to school, company, society...
Then we grade up our inner child thorough many experiences and handle
in society with others well.

But, if you have problems now, you have the inner child that stays
with no version up in your mind.

That means your mind remains in your child thought , not growing enough.

This is the inner child that we are called in psycho therapy.
We advise you how to grow up your child thoughts !!

Dreams come true

My friend asked me why he is not become a rich man
although he have always thought to want to be…

There are 2 possible answers.

One is that his thought is not enough to become reality.
Another is he doesn’t want to get it indeed…

Why do you want to get a lot of money?
To be the better life
Buying house, taking care of parents, going travel etc.

What are you practically doing for it ?
Saving the money.
Looking for the jobs with better salary.
Buying lotto.

How much money do you save money per month ?
I don't know...

How do you look for the job ?
Checking the internet job site.

Why are buying lottos ?
I can't earn milion dollors except winning lotto.

???

Apparently, he seems not to think about getting money siriously...
If he really wants it, he have to make up his mind strongly and take an action.
(Our thought creat the current phenomenon, but need to take an action together!!)

Another thinng is here.

He thinks he can't earn a lot of money by hisself.
That means, even if he says to want money, it doesn't come true.
(Becase his deeper thought stops his way to get a lot of money.)

So, need to release this thought from his mind.

Then, imagin the future...

What is your goal ?How much do you want to get money ?
Milions !!

How do you think get that money ?
Doing the business.

OK!!
You've already known how to get it and be a milionaire,
but you havn't done anything...

Besauce of fear ? Rude ?

We are normally afraid of new steps with many negative "if"

However, it is not meaningless...
(because negative thoughts lead to negative phenomenon
even though you haven't done anything. )

Draw the brighten future and make up your mid and step forward
to make dreams come true !!!

Wonderful word

I came across the wonderful sentence in the book.

"To be free. It is not to escape from something, but to be the boss of you "

What is freedom ?

When we are busy of your work or study,
many people think to go travelling to somewhere...

want to be released the situation.

But is to escape from it meant we get freedom ?

If we escape from something, we are not satisfied with this situation.

All things are made by you.
No need to escape from anything !!

If you are busy, it has some meanings
because result is your purpose.

To be free is to control your life by yourself.

Cleaning up

Recently, I feel like to do cleaning before I start to work.

I do nothing special, though...

Just open the office, wipe the tables, clean up the rubbish bin etc...
and my mind is gonna be working mode.

Then, I plan what I'm going to do during the day and can do it very efficiently.

Indeed, it is good not only to make room clean physically but to put your ideas in order.

If you can't start doing anything because you think about it too much,

Try it !!

It makes your mind very clean and clear and you can make it easily

Dexterous !?

Everyone often says to me

"Surprised that you can do everything !!"

I like to hear this kind of words.

I tend to learn something widely, not deeply.
One day, I think about it.

"Why do I keep doing something new when I feel some satisfied
after learing ?"

Am I capricious ?
Do I feel luck of satisfaction because of not new ?"

These reasons are correct, to some extend.

But rout of cauasality is

"Myself who don't want to take my responsibility."

I'm fear for the world after I have completed.
I have completed and to be a top and then, have to burden the responsiblity...

I fall down my possibility by myself...

This is really ridicurous, isnt it !?

So, I graduate from this stupid thought !

I make up my mind to take my resposibility for everything !

And I say to myself

"Don't be afraid, You have enogh ability to do it by yourself with resposibility !
New world you can create your life will be there."

Positive mind

Do you have some beliefs?

For me...

When I have some events like going for travelling, driving,
the weather is always very good. I'm a sunny girl !!

My thought create phenomenon like below.

I think the weather should be nice for my important days.
↓
Phenomenon is happened becasuse of proof.
↓
I beleive the weather is always good !!

Sometimes, weather supposed not to be good,
but I don't remember andjust input the good thing in my brain...
it's gonna be firm belief...

Someone say "weather is always bad for me."

If you always think the negative way like this,
many negative phenomenos are happened.

Don't you think positive minds bring you many pleasant feelings ?

Thinking is free. Nobody disturb your thought.

Let's think many positive things !!

Every message is for me

From conversation with my client.

She've worked as veterinarian in Japan.
She is studying hard to work at vet in New Zealand.

I was talking to her.

"You've studied enogh to do so and it's time to start work.
You can learn what you don't know at the real situation.
Don't you escape from here with reason you can't do it
because you don't finish studying ?
When you think about applying the job, you feel anxious,
like they don't accept you...
But can you step forward ?
If you want to study more, you should decide the starting date."

What I want to say something to somebody is what I want to say it to myself.

Ummm, it's really mine,,,

I'm about to start the work as Phycological therapist, but I have a lot of worries.
While I do study, it seems to be proceeding, but I do it for reason I don't start.
(Studying itself is off course importatnt, but don't use for reason.)

Well, All I have to do is "Do it !! Move it !! "

If I do it, she does it as well...

Your choice is always best

When we come across some horrible situations, we may think

"It's not my fault. My surrundings like freinds, parents,
collegues, your boss, your company etc give it to me...

But you create everything. You make all situations even if you feel them disaster.
Current phenomenons come from your thought in past.

For example...

A lady say "I want to get married " But she doesn't and she gets sick instead.
She thinks not to get anything she wants and get worst situation...

However, she gets what she really wants !!

If she doesn't get married, her thought haven't reached to enogh level or
it doesn't her desire. She works hard and thinks to take one week off etc.
This thought leads to married. But her real desire is to take some rests.
That's why she get sick.

Result is always your purpose. You get your best choice all the times.

You need to admit once without any excusion.
Let's consider what is your real purpose at the first moment...


TAW (Theory of an Advanced World)
http://www.taw.ac/ (Japanese version, English version is coming soon.)
erika613@gmail.com

Your thought creat the world

What do you think about it ?

You may agree with it to some exend, but not completely.

However, I want to say

Your thoughts creat he world ! There is no exception !!

When you get it, you feel your world gonna be changed to shining

You also get a confident you really creat / control everything by yourself in your world.

Don't you know how it is ?

TAW (Theory of an Advanced World)
http://www.taw.ac/ (Japanese version, English version is coming soon)
erika613@gmail.com